129. You're Not Behind - Your Measurement is Wrong

Are you really behind—or are you just becoming? In this final episode of the Legacy in the Little Things mini-series, Laura shares a powerful mindset shift around progress, overwhelm, and the unrealistic pressure to “do it all.” Plus, hear how one couple turned chaos into clarity by focusing on one goal at a time—and how you can do the same.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why feeling “behind” is often a sign you’re doing too much at once
• How to define success by your metrics—not someone else’s
• A real-life client story of transformation in just 9 months
• A journaling prompt to help you reflect and refocus for next month
• How to apply for a live Money or Career Audit on the show

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Transcript

Laura: 0:00

Okay, accelerators, this is the last in our legacy in the little things mini series. I hope that in the future I'm going to be having some coaching episodes here on the podcast. So if there are two in a week, one of them is going to be the main episode that is usually longer, 15 to 30 minutes. But I also wanna have some coaching episodes on the podcast. I wanna coach people in their money. I wanna coach people in their career, and I want you to see live real time money audits and career audits. So if that's something you would be interested in being a part of, if you've ever been like, I would really love to ask Dave Ramsey a question, but I don't wanna call in and talk to a national radio show, this is your chance to do it. And instead of getting a five minute. A conversation and response, you'll get 20 minutes. 20 minutes is my goal. Sometimes I run a little long. I don't know if you notice, but I can be a little bit verbose. So those coaching episodes, if you wanna be a part of them, a money audit or a career audit, you can apply to be right here on this podcast. You just go to accelerate your legacy.com/apply and you can choose money audit or career audit. Go ahead and apply and we will get back to you about being on the show. Today I wanted to talk about the fact that you're not behind. You're becoming. So often I hear people come to me and they're like, I'm behind. Behind who, behind what, what metric are you using to define whether or not you're behind? This is something that I've been, I've been asking late a lot lately. Not only what metric are you using to decide whether or not you're behind, is that a good metric? Is it what you want to be using to measure? I think that when you decide what metric you want to be defined by, you might find that you're not behind. You're exactly where you need to be to become the person that you want to become. Ultimately, a story popped in my mind when I was thinking about this of my client's, Jake and Alyssa. They came to me with small children, a busy, busy life, just going through everything, thinking that they were fine, but realizing that this money thing was a point of contention for them and they weren't actually getting ahead. In fact, they felt that every month they were falling further and further behind. When I sat down with them and I looked at all of their money situation, what I found was that they were doing all of the things they were saving for emergency fund. They were paying off debt, they were trying to live on a budget, but were kind of not living on a budget because something would pop up and they would throw off the whole budget and they couldn't do it. And they were trying to save for kids' college and save for retirement. And they also wanted to move and there was just a whole lot of things going on. They were trying to pay down their house. And can you feel how crazy. It felt in their brains when they were trying to think all of these things and hold all of these things the same time. So what I asked them to do was pick one thing and do that. Now, this is really difficult. It's very counterintuitive. He was a bit of a squirrel. He liked to hide things away, and he had many different accounts, and I said, let's make things easy. You guys know I like for money to feel easy. So I said, what if we just stopped? Doing all of the things and instead did one at a time until we complete it and then move on to the next. Well, you would imagine their surprise when in nine short months they had their starter emergency fund. They paid off all of their debt and they were starting to build their emergency fund in nine short months. They went from being behind and feeling crazy. To being caught up and in just a couple more months. By the time we hit that one year mark, their fully funded emergency fund was sitting off to the side and they were once again saving for retirement, for kids college and paying off their house. They were able to get to a place where they could do everything, but they first had to stop, get caught up. Then move forward. You see, you're not behind. You may just be doing too many things at once. So decide how you want to measure where you're at. Decide who you're behind, because if you're behind somebody else and somebody else's metric, you're not actually behind. You might be behind them, but. That's not you. Maybe you're exactly where you need to be right now, or maybe you're just trying to do too many things at once, and all we need to do is we need to slow down and focus on one small step at a time. Your legacy isn't built in leaps and bounds. It's built in daily faithfulness, one step at a time, being consistent. That's where the legacy's gonna come from. Very much like working out in gym. Progress isn't always visible in the moment. You can see somebody lifting weights, but you don't see the breakdown of the muscle or the regrowth of that muscle. You can't visibly see the change in a person in a single day, but over time, with consistency and daily faithfulness, progress is apparent. I'd love for you to write down one small action that you're proud of, that you've accomplished this month, and then I'd write like for you to write down something that you would like to accomplish next month, and then look at that and say, okay, what is the step by step that I need to do so I can be faithful doing something every day to get me towards that next thing? Like I said, this is the last of the Legacy and the little things mini series. But I would love to invite you to come join us over in the Facebook community. You can find the Legacy Builders Network where we get together and we cheer each other on. No matter what step you are on your financial journey, we would love to have you come be a part of our network, your network. Is your net worth. If you need more people around you that are like-minded, that are trying to win with their money, this is where you can come together and meet them. Alright, accelerators, we hope to see you over on Facebook. Until then, go out and make a difference.